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Overcoming the Blasé Attitude

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Overcoming the Blasé Attitude

A social survival guide for students at city schools

Ashley Moreno

3.30.17

So you landed yourself in an amazing city. You attend a university with almost 18,000 undergraduate students. There are more than 450 student groups at Boston University and 34 other colleges in Boston. Everyday you pass hundreds of new faces. It must be easy to meet new people....right?




Actually, it can be kind of difficult.

"I thought if I came to a city school, I'd be able to meet a lot of diverse people," said Jaden, a student in Boston University's College of Arts and Sciences. "Now, I look around and there are tons of diverse people everywhere, but I'm just not meeting them."

Living in an urban environment such as Boston can sometimes be a huge struggle. It feels as if everyone is rushing from one place to another, glued to their phones, and never taking the time to look up and say hello to the person next to them.

This attitude is known as the blasé attitude, and it is defined as indifference caused by frequent exposure or indulgence. In other words, city dwellers see so many new faces a day, that they lose interest in meeting anyone because they can't meet everyone.

The blasé attitude is somewhat necessary to not feel overwhelmed about trying to meet every person that you pass. Totally shutting yourself off from the world, however, is never beneficial.




"I usually will meet new people in class or through friends of friends," said Savannah, a student in the College of Communication. "I am not super outgoing, so I have to rely on other people to introduce me to others."

Some students find it hard to connect with others, especially if they don't have that much in common with them. When people already have an established group of friends, it makes it even harder for strangers to make their way into that friend group.

"I am a transfer at BU and the only people I've been able to connect with are other transfers," said Louise, another student in the College of Communication. "It seems like regular students have their set friend groups and aren't looking for new additions."

Overcoming the blasé attitude is the best way to meet people at colleges. Instead of closing yourself off from the world, do the opposite and be welcoming of new opportunities, and the possibility of meeting someone new wherever and whenever.

Whether you are waiting for the BU bus or you're in line at the GSU, the potential to meet someone new and interesting is everywhere.

"The best way to meet people at BU is to just be outgoing," said Ally, a student in Questrom. "Especially freshman year, everyone is in the same boat and they want to meet new friends. So it is always cool to just introduce yourself.I heard that, the worst thing you can do when meeting someone new is act self conscious. People are attracted to other people who are confident and comfortable in their own skin."

To meet new people, you don't have to stick to boring small talk. You don't even need to have anything miraculous to say. The most fun and effective conversations are the ones that come up naturally.


"I've met people all over Boston," said Robert, a student in Sargent College. "I'm not afraid to approach someone I think is cool. If I am out and I see someone that gives me good vibes, I will say 'what's up' or ask for directions. Any random question that gets a conversation going works."

Of course it is advisable to join the clubs and groups you are interested in. More important, however, is bringing an attitude that will be irresistible to others.

What you put into the world is what you get out of it. If you express an interest in other people, they will express an interest in you. If you are nice to other people, they will (usually) be nice back.
Most importantly, if you want to meet new people, remember to B U.